Last night on October 30 I went to see this play at Alumni Hall, Georgia State University. The play is titled How I Learned to Drive, by playwright Paula Vogel. The play focuses on the issues of incest and child abuse/molestation. The main character is a woman called Lil Bit. The play chronicles her life with her family, and takes important episodes of Lil Bit’s life. Since eleven years old Lil Bit has been sexually molested by her Uncle Peck, who is also her closest relative. The fact that she is close to her molester uncle is what made me want to go see the play. This situation is I find is astonishing; the family member that Lil Bit adores the most is her molester. I wanted to see how this situation worked out. The play was highly interesting I have to admit.
Uncle Peck does not force himself upon Lil Bit or make her do anything that she does not want to do. He only molests Lil Bit with her consent. One night while Lil Bit and Uncle Peck are alone in a car, Uncle Peck asks Lil Bit if he can gently kiss her breast. He pleads to her that he has been good and has not taken a drink all week. He believes he deserves a little something. Lil Bit obliges and lets her uncle caress and kiss her sixteen year old breasts. Lil Bit does not like when her uncle drinks, and uses Uncle Pecks’ desires for her as an incentive to get him to not drink as much as he would. They usually meet at least every week to hang out because Lil Bit wants to; she loves her uncle dearly. In one scene we see that she begs her mom to let her spend more time with Uncle Peck. Her mother says she doesn’t like the way Uncle Peck looks at her, and she is scared that something might happen. Her mother gives into the begging and says to Lil Bit, “Ok you can spend time with your uncle, but if anything happens I hold you fully responsible.” Uncle Peck’s wife and Lil Bit’s Aunt Mary knows instinctively what is going on; but she doesn’t say anything, she just counts down the days when Lil Bit heads off to college.
I don’t want to spoil the play for those who have not seen it so I am going to stop there. I really enjoyed this play and I recommend to anyone who hasn’t seen it to go see it. The play asks the hard questions about known molestation and incest in families, and how it affects the generations. I thought it was pretty inspiring, and I hope others think so too.
